429

Some years ago, a friend of mine and I noticed that our speech, and the speech of some around us, was not always what it ought to be.

No, we didn't cuss or say things of that nature, but we weren't exactly being uplifting.

Convicted, we decided to try a little experiment. I can't recall whose idea it was initially, but we, based on Ephesians 4:29, decided that if we ever caught the other saying something we shouldn't, we would say "429."

For the sake of this discussion, here is the verse:

"Let no unwholesome word proceed from your mouth, but only such a word as is good for edification according to the need of the moment, so that it will give grace to those who hear." - Ephesians 4:29

It actually proved to be quite effective, and since then I've suggested the idea to a handful of people.

Our words really do show so much about our hearts, and Scripture speaks abundantly on the topic.

Man will be judged for his words (Matthew 12:36). It's something we should take seriously.

So instead of mocking, we ought to uplift more. Instead of cursing, we should bless. Instead of expressing our disapproval, maybe we should look for the positive. Instead of gossip, we should pray. Instead of seeking to be heard with our many words, maybe we should seek to listen. In other words, seek words that fit the moment, that give grace to those who hear.

Paul even goes on to tell us to put off the old, sinful ways of bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, slander, and malice. Instead, put on new attitudes: kindness, tender-heartedness, forgiveness, realizing that God has forgiven us in Christ (Ephesians 4:31-32).

So, maybe you recognize that your speech isn't what it ought to be. Do you say things that are not wholesome: words that are filthy, coarse, ungrateful, inappropriate, or gossiping words? Take it to God in prayer; He is faithful and just to forgive us and cleanse us (1 John 1:9). And maybe recruit a friend, try this little "429" thing, and see if it doesn't help you notice just how often (I know it did for me) you might say things that would be better left unsaid.

Most importantly, though, pray, be in the word, and rely on the Holy Spirit to help you change your words by changing your heart (Luke 6:45).